How to Love Yourself

How to Love Yourself
© Wendy Arscott, 2017

Why? Isn’t loving yourself ‘selfish’, ‘egocentric’, maybe even ‘narcissistic’?
Well, the truth of the matter is that if you do not love yourself, you cannot really love anyone else. You are with ‘you’ all the time.

If you do not love yourself, you will buckle under others’ demands, commit to things you do not want to do, do things that are against your deepest values.

So, what is this thing called ‘love’?

Well, you can create a more accepting atmosphere for yourself through what Louise Hay calls ‘mirror work’. It can be very, very hard at first, to look at your image in the mirror with total acceptance and say, “I love you”. If you think you are going to have a problem with this you may want to enlist the help of a friend or coach. The rewards are so gratifying.

You will feel lighter, be more accepting of others, cut yourself some slack when you are having a bad day or goof up on something.

Be grateful for all the little things in life which are really big things. Tomorrow, as you go through your routine, think how grateful you are for your shower, the clean water, the soap, the towel. Where would you be without these conveniences we consider necessities. So many people in the world are not as ‘rich’ as we are in things we take for granted.

As much as you would be gentle and kind with a loved one, especially a child, do likewise with yourself. You will notice the criticisms in your head, all that negative self talk, stare you plainly in the face and you will realize how you have been badgering yourself daily with unkind remarks.

And remember to praise yourself for all you do right. You will also begin to acknowledge and boost others and this will change your focus to see what is positive. Don’t wait until you have lost weight, or earned the degree, or become a master chef. Love yourself now and you will be more loving to others.

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